It should start at home: How did you learn about sex?

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[Tammy123]

I was raised by a single black mother which had three girls. We were primarily taught about our body parts and who shouldn't touch them which was no one. So as far as real love and sex, orgasm was an experience I had to learn on my own, which after all the faking the real feeling for sex actually came at the age of twenty. Sex was like an experiment.

[MrMedia]

Well being raised by christian parents in the 70`s & 80`s my father did pretty good I guess, he tried talking to us me and my older brother about sex and when he was finished he gave us condoms.

I was so shocked because the church doesn`t promote sex until Marriage, but my father didn`t want us to have children until we were older so he said if you are going to "Do It" Protect yourself.

It worked because we didn`t have children until our middle twenties.

[Layla]

I learned through experience and talk. I always hung around a lot of guys and older people so I heard a lot of what guys wanted and what they did in bed.
From the age of 13 I was raised by my mother after our father died so all I ever heard from her was you better not have sex and don't bring no babies in here. I understood that since she was a Christian and sex was not an option. No sex until Married. And I did good up until my senior year of high school.

I am an easy learner. I just went with the flow and thought back to what I heard from others. Of course I regret it and I would tell all and anyone who is not married. SAVE YOURSELF FOR YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE TO BE
That one incident just opened up something in me that wasn't there before. Once you do it and get away with it you want to continue and you don't think anything is wrong with it. WRONG!!!!

Parents teach your children about the sexual organs and feelings about sex. Let them know that through prayer God can sustain them. I know I could have made if it weren't for that first incident. I was drunk, young and dumb and let an older man talk me into it. AND DON'T GIVE THEM ANY OPTIONS! No Sex UNTIL MARRIED. People don't realize the trauma this can cause in your marriage. Once I got married I thought about all others that I had been with and when he wasn't doing what he was supposed to do I would actually thinkabout others just to get it going. Had I never been with anyone else, I would think his stuff was the bomb. The point of sex is to be connected to your mate SPOUSE THAT IS. So once you do it, you don't get disconnected from them. You will always remember what happened and regardless if you remember their names or not you remember when and where it happened. NO SEX, YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT BABIES, DISEASES OR CONNECTIONS. AND WHEN YOU MARRY YOUR MATE EVENTUALLY, IT WILL BE A GLORIOUS DAY AND SPARKS WILL FLY. JUST IMAGINE IF YOU NEVER DID IT UNTIL YOU GOT MARRIED????? SELAH!

And one more thing, don't even get involved in kissing, petting, hugging, oral sex and all of that. You think you are safe until you start doing all of this and then you end up in the bed. A simple hug and peck on the cheek to say good night is enough. If all he wants is sex and they can't control themselves they have problems and you need to stay away.

[Layla]

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Dr. Lindsay Marsh is an excellent woman of God. She tells it like it is. Holding back no cut cards. She has a book called "The Best Sex of My Life". The title isn't what you think it's about. Pick a copy up and read for yourself. You should get her to talk at your conventions and conferences, especially at church youth groups, and such.


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[BUFFIE26]

My mother was from the old school. I found out after i was raped @ 15 yrs old I was babysitting a neighbor's child. My school teacher gave me a book 2 days later to read about sex.

[Greatness]

Sex talk should start at home and at an early age. Talking to children early about sex could help them understand when people are molesting them. I’m not saying to go into graphic details about sex to young children, but gradual talk about protecting their body parts and the consequences of allowing someone else to touch them.

It should not start in school because more and more teachers are molesting young children.

My daughter’s doctor (female) told her that if she is scared to approach me or her father to talk about a problem or questions about sex to call her.

[KevLove35]

I learned by watching "KUNG-FU" Movies .

I guess that's why I couldn't keep a girlfriend for long .


" WAAAH - SAAH ! " :D

[ssjup81]

I just gradually learned stuff over the years, but I'm still pretty inexperienced, even though I'm in my mid-20s now. I've still never had sex. :p

That aside, my mother was always open with the topic, and was always willing to talk about that subject...I just never asked. I just wasn't interested.

As for school, that started in 4th grade. We learned of how our bodies were going to change. We had these courses from 4th grade to the 8th grade. They would separate the girls and the boys for those classes. I can honestly say, they never explained what guys went through, aside from the obvious "boys will grow taller and their voices will change".

In 8th grade, they sorta got into the sex thing...to the point of pretty much using the scare tactic + abstinence. We were taught, from what I remember anyway, that sex = pregnancy, disease, or death (aids) and showed us a film of what our body parts would look like if contracting different types of STDs. I've blocked out that trauma...I just remember being highly disturbed.

As a teen, I wasn't too interested in dating and sex. I had more important things on my mind, like school.

[filmoredollar]

Sorry, no story about my mom being a godly women and what not. Not dad giving me condom. I learned how and about sex from watching porno. I RELEARNED about sex after I started having it. Scary huh?

[laylablue]

I wasn't told anything but you don't have sex. I was never explained that you can have healthy nonsexual relationships with boys. I wasn't showed or exposed to dating. And I started having it at 15 and was just wild back then and thought that boys and girls just had sex. I have 3 kids ages 9,5,&4 and I am now 27. It wasn't until this year that I really understood the value of my body. I feel that if my parents would have explained that my body was special and once I gave it away I could never get it back; I would have viewed sex differently. I have all girls and I am going to sit down and have a discussion with my daughters about males, relationships, dating, sex, respect, morals, and the consequences and I will leave my door open if they feel that they need protection . I think the problem with our youth is that all adults say is "Don't have sex until you get married"; but it is easy for someone married to tell someone single not to have sex when they are sharing a bed with someone. I feel that kids need to be taught to respect and love their bodies and that their bodies are a temple. When you just come out and tell someone that something is bad for them you make them want to try it more. Sex should be an open discussion with children.

[zion]

A judge ordered a black teenager back to jail, deciding the fight that put him in the national spotlight violated terms of his probation for a previous conviction, his attorney said.

Mychal Bell, who along with five other black teenagers in the so-called Jena Six case is accused of beating a white classmate, had gone to juvenile court in Jena on Thursday expecting another routine hearing, said Carol Powell Lexing, one of his attorneys.

Instead, state District Judge J.P. Mauffrey Jr. sentenced Bell to 18 months in jail on two counts of simple battery and two counts of criminal destruction of property, Lexing said.

"We are definitely going to appeal this," she said. "We'll continue to fight."

Bell had been hit with those charges before the Dec. 4 attack on classmate Justin Barker. Details on the previous charges, which were handled in juvenile court, were unclear.

Mauffrey, reached at his home Thursday night, had no comment.

"He's locked up again," Marcus Jones said of his 17-year-old son. "No bail has been set or nothing. He's a young man who's been thrown in jail again and again, and he just has to take it."

After the attack on Barker, Bell was originally charged with attempted murder, but the charges were reduced and he was convicted of battery. An appeals court threw that conviction out, saying Bell should not have been tried as an adult on that charge.

Racial tensions began rising in August 2006 in Jena after a black student sat under a tree known as a gathering spot for white students. Three white students later hung nooses from the tree. They were suspended but not prosecuted.

More than 20,000 demonstrators gathered last month in the small central Louisiana town to protest what they perceive as differences in how black and white suspects are treated. The case has drawn the attention of civil rights activists including the Revs. Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson.

Sharpton reacted swiftly upon learning Bell was back in jail Thursday.

"We feel this was a cruel and unusual punishment and is a revenge by this judge for the Jena Six movement," said Sharpton, who helped organize the protest held Sept. 20, the day Bell was originally supposed to be sentenced.

Bell's parents were also ordered to pay all court costs and witness costs, Sharpton said.

"I don't know what we're going to do," Jones said. "I don't know how we're going to pay for any of this. I don't know how we're going to get through this."

Bell and the other five defendants have been charged in the attack on Barker, which left him unconscious and bleeding with facial injuries. According to court testimony, he was repeatedly kicked by a group of students at the high school.

Barker was treated for three hours at an emergency room but was able to attend a school function that evening, authorities have said.

Bell, Robert Bailey Jr., Carwin Jones, Bryant Purvis and Theo Shaw were all initially charged — as adults — with attempted second-degree murder and conspiracy to commit the same. A sixth defendant was charged in the case as a juvenile.

Bell, who was 16 at the time, was convicted in June of aggravated second-degree battery and conspiracy to commit that crime. LaSalle Parish prosecutor Reed Walters reduced the charges just before the trial. Since then, both of those convictions were dismissed and tossed back to juvenile court, where they now are being tried.

Charges against Bailey, 18, Jones, 19, and Shaw, 18, have been reduced to aggravated second-degree battery. Purvis, 18, has not yet been arraigned.

http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20071012/ap_on_re_us/jena_six

[sweetchas]

I guess my mama taught me but in a weird way,I learned by her actions.

[enpowermentnow]

My dad told me in his infinite wisdom "If you give the boys some trim, you will be talked about and called a HO (his words) He will tell all his friends and you will be sought out because you're (doing it)....I did not have a child until I was twenty eight years olds and the words still echo in my Mind.