Biological clock ticking too early: Why do young women want kids?

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[Young and Sophisticated]

I can't really speak for other women but personally, yes I do want kids now. I'm only 22 years old, engaged, successful, and well educated. I've always had this thing were I wanted to be able to keep up with my kids. I don't want to be one of those 40/50 year old women trying to raise a newborn. I know growing up the age difference between my mother and I kept me from communicating with her about a lot of things I really wanted to talk about. I always felt like she wouldn't understand because it had been so long since she was my age and things were so different back then. Also me being a professional I plan to retire in my early 40s and I want my (2) kids to be out on their on by then. My hope is for them to be in college preparing their minds to take over the family business, because mama and daddy are retiring between 40 and 45 if the Lord so sees fit!!! It really takes a lot of time and energy to raise strong children these days. That’s why I want my kids now at such a young age. Between the ages of 35-40 I plan to be at the peak of my career and I can’t see having young children around this time. I can’t imagine having to divide my time between nurturing my career and nurturing a young child with the correct mindset.

~~~ Always A Lady ~~~

[ssjup81]

For me, seems I always had that urge to have a child back when I was in my early 20s, but no boyfriend, no marriage, no decent job, etc., which is what kept me level-headed. I think 22 was the worse...it was the only thing on my mind, but I still didn't have sex...then again, I wasn't in any relationship, either.

Now that I'm a bit older (26), that urge seems to have died down a lot. I still want a child, but, just like before, not until I can actually afford to have one or am in a position to have one. I always wanted to "keep up with my child" too, if I was to have one. I do not want to be in my late 30s and such either having children. The idea of having a child past the age of 30 kinda bugs me since I always said if I didn't biologically have one by the age of 30, I won't at all, but if I want to finish getting my Bachelor's degree (I'm going back to school) and study in Japan for a while through the Japanese Exchange Teaching Program (hopefully), having a child will probably get in the way of that some, unless it was god's will for me to get pregnant at that particular time. I guess I want to get myself together, have my "fun" before settling down as well as establishing some type of a career (teaching) to that type of responsibility.

[Mahogany Love]

clue why they want kids but they can come stay in my household for a minute they'll change their minds really quick. After my brother visited me for two weeks last summer he say "I don't know how you do it!".

Always: Love, Peace & Harmony all o ver the world

[winnerinlife]

I can't really speak for other women but personally, yes I do want kids now. I'm only 22 years old, engaged, successful, and well educated. I've always had this thing were I wanted to be able to keep up with my kids. I don't want to be one of those 40/50 year old women trying to raise a newborn. I know growing up the age difference between my mother and I kept me from communicating with her about a lot of things I really wanted to talk about. I always felt like she wouldn't understand because it had been so long since she was my age and things were so different back then. Also me being a professional I plan to retire in my early 40s and I want my (2) kids to be out on their on by then. My hope is for them to be in college preparing their minds to take over the family business, because mama and daddy are retiring between 40 and 45 if the Lord so sees fit!!! It really takes a lot of time and energy to raise strong children these days. That’s why I want my kids now at such a young age. Between the ages of 35-40 I plan to be at the peak of my career and I can’t see having young children around this time. I can’t imagine having to divide my time between nurturing my career and nurturing a young child with the correct mindset.

~~~ Always A Lady ~~~

SIS, you have good intentions but you still have a life to live. As long as you take care of yourself healthwise, you would be able to keep up with a newborn even in your 40s. The main reason folks in their 40s may not be able to keep up with kids is because of them not taking care of their helth first. Yes, the advantage of having kids early in life is that by 40 or so, you can be fancy free. The disadvantage is that in your early 20s you are still finding out who YOU are. Do you want to bring a child into this world when you are still trying to piece your life together? You may be mature for your age and I'll give you the benefit of the doubt on that. However, you need to re-evaluate where you are in your life before you take on a major responsibility like a child. You have a long term plan and that's good. Remember, life happens How about buying a house first THEN have children?

Just asking that you think about it. That's all. Good luck to you and God bless.

[Blackman7]

A woman has the instinct of a mother; she does not have the instinct of a wife---Confucius

[One_Shyy_Beauty]

... Why Not Take It Slow,

Before, Startin' A Family?? :)


When U're Only 22, There's No Way,

... Ur "Biological Clock" Is Tickin'!!! http://www.getphpbb.com/phpbb/images/smiles/suspicious.gif


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[Young and Sophisticated]

winnerinlife- You have made some very very good points that young people, such as myself, should think about before having a child. One's life should be evaluated before bringing another in it. I have done that and have been doing that since I graduated from High School. When I was coming up my Mom's thing was "A Dream". She would tell anyone that you won't get anywhere in life unless you have a dream. At the age of 12 we sat down and she made me at that point establish the beginning of my dream. Since that day, fulfilling my dream has been my number one goal in life. Most of what’s happening now is apart of my dream and plan for my life. I'm blessed to be in the situation I'm in when it comes to my life. I refuse to be the one to complain about anything because God has been so good to me. My fiancé' and I have just purchased our first home back in April this year and we are loving life right now. When we graduated from college last year our parents sent up on a trip throughout the world as a graduation present. While we were away it was at that time we decided we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and start a family of our own. Since that point that's what we have been planning to do. We purchased our first home, soon to be married (Feb 2008), and right after that we will start trying for our first child. I know things won't always be peachy but as for this day and time I'm too blessed to be stressed. .

Young people you can do anything you set your mind to doing. Don't be discouraged by anyone who says you’re too young, too black, or not smart enough to do something. Where there's a will there's a way. May God Bless