Life after divorce : Would you do it again?

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[medicineman]

i was married for 6 yrs, i walked away from her after she cheated. been divorced for about 8 yrs. and soon i hope to find my queen. life does not end at divorce. put it on the lines of, a new and better life begins. and the one you marry this time will be the one whom you were meant to.

[Benita]

I don't have anything against marriage, but I've figured out it's just not for me. I think you end up losing your identify, becoming responsible for someone, and once your tied financially, it's very difficult and destructive to get out of it. I think it's fine for people who love one another to live together, but once you find it necessary to have prenups, then you're already saying I don't think this will last, so I have to do something to protect myself. Then don't get married! it's doomed from the start. I say love each other, live together, and call it a day.;)

[grenetta b]

i've learned from what god said "WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER"

IF GOD DID NOT JOIN IT TOGETHER THEN IT WILL NEVER WORK. AND LET ME CLARIFY MY SELF BEFORE YOU GUYS AND GIRLS JUMP ON ME :p

MY FIRST MISTAKE WAS I MOVE IN WITH THIS MAN TO GET AWAY FROM MY MOTHER; INSTEAD OF GETTING MY OWN PLACE AND DATING HIM AND GETTING TO KNOW HIM BEFORE I UP AND MOVED IN WITH HIM.

SECOND: I HAD KIDS WITH THIS MAN. INSTEAD OF LETTING HIM GET HIMSELF AND MYSELF ESTABLISHED BEFORE WE HAD CHILDREN.

THIRD: I DIDN'T TAKE TIME TO GET TO KNOW THIS MAN SPIRITUALLY, PHYSICALLY, AND FINANCIALLY MY BIGGEST MISTAKE AND I CAN'T BLAME NO ONE BUT MYSELF.

ALOT OF TIMES SO CALLED LOVE BLIND SIDES US FROM RATIONAL THINKING.
AND WE LET THE LUST OF OUR OWN FLESH OVERPOWER US. AND WE MAKE TERRIBLE MISTAKES. THAT CAN ONLY MESS UP A PERSONs LIFE, ALSO OUR OWN.

I'VE LEARNED ALOT FROM MY PAST MISTAKES ON MARRIAGE, AND I LEARNED WHERE TO STORE MY TRUST FIRST . AND THAT'S WITH GOD.

MAN WILL FAIL A THOUSAND TIMES BUT WITH GODS TRUST AND SPIRIT INSIDE OF YOU. YOU CAN PASS ALL LIFES TEST.

YES SURE I WILL GET MARRIED AGAIN AND THIS TIME. I WILL HAVE THE PATIENCE AND WISDOM TO TRUST GOD THAT HE WILL DELIVER ME UNTO
A PERSON THAT KNOWS "WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER LET NO MAN PUT ASUNDER"

CAUSE WITH THE RIGHT LOVE AND UNDERSTANDING WE BOTH KNOW OUR MARRIAGE HAS BEEN BLESSED BY GOD.:)

[soldiergirl]

I was married 20 years and divorced at age 40. I was married half of my life. I stayed because I believed in my marriage vows and wanted so much for it to work. It was not a healthy relationship. I have been single for 6 years now. I would not be opposed to being married again but I prefer to say that I want to be in a loving relationship.

[tyra_78]

I was married for 5 years and now newly divorced ( 2 months) and I would have to say that I would get married again. I grew up thinking that marriage was not for me, but when I joined the military... things changed so much. I love to be in a partnership that marriage includes. I have two children and hate that I have allowed my children to see that life is not a fairy book stories. My husband went to Iraq and came back a changed man... a with a girlfriend who has a son that just turned 1. He wanted out of the relationship, cheated on me while he was stationed at Camp Victory, Kuwait. ( You will never hear that on the new: How many service man and woman over there and back here cheating like it is nothing) I am still recovering... The pain I still have to this day is very deep but I see thank God that he has allowed me to want to be about to look for love again. I fully believe that Man should not live by bread alone. So with that I am going to let God lead me and bless me with the next man in my life.

[blackparent]

wouldn't get married again, and i wouldn't even be in a serious relationship. it's just not for me

[Luvbug89]

This is a tough question to answer, because of the "buts". At this point, I would have to say absolutely, positively NOT! I may feel differently in a year, but today, I would not! I like being free to do as I please. I don't like having to answer to someone. I am not against a relationship, just dont want to live with someone or be totally committed. Thats where I am today. :cool: